Showing posts with label bad mom. Show all posts
Showing posts with label bad mom. Show all posts

Friday, March 6, 2015

The one with killings..


We had a pretty good week or two with Fishing Pole.  Safety measures were put into place after the morning we all woke up to the house smelling like matches/smoke.  It was explained to him that we need to keep HIM and everyone else safe when he cannot make safe choices.  I think taking away the opportunity for bad choices actually makes him more comfortable.

Whether it's the choices being taken away, new meds, or what - something seemed to be helping the behavior and attitude.  He had some anxiety about state testing (ugh! Don't get me started!!) but was able to recognize that he was worried about it and talk to me about it (vs acting out, getting in trouble and making me play detective to figure out what was really bothering him).  This is real progress! Part of the new safety measures is that he must be on the same floor and within eyesight of an adult.  It seems to be working. He has been in a much better mood and very few behavior issues at all.  I even complimented him yesterday on how well he was doing and how proud we were on how many good choices he has been making lately.

And then this morning, he woke up in an ugly mood.  A mood where Every.Single.Thing is to cause a fight. He will argue over the fact that he is arguing.

I got the lovely "I hate YOU!" again.  ooh ahh..  But this time he followed up with "I want to kill you! I really want to kill you!"

Uhmm no, this is just a step too far.  Hate me all you want because I know the minute you get out of this mood, you'll be over it.  But killing someone? The kid looked dead serious.  If he had a gun, I'd be dead.   All because a 9yo woke up in a pissy mood and decided I was mean to him.

Naturally as is true Fishing Pole fashion, an hour later he's calm and fine as if nothing ever happened.  While I think part of this is normal boy stuff, part of me wonders and worries about what is going on inside his head.






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Friday, October 31, 2014

Happy Halloween !


This year I am being a bad mom.  I did not bring up Halloween, Trick-or-Treating, or costumes to my kids to see if they would ask about it themselves.  They waited until TUESDAY to say "Hey, are we going to go trick-or-treating this year? What should we be?"    Uhm, nope guys - no trick-or-treating this year.  Actually they took it just fine.

I have several reasons beyond my own laziness for not participating this year.

1. Dimples does not do well with tons of strangers and around people all hyped up.  Last year our neighborhood had a small trick-or-treating day before Halloween just for our own neighborhood kids. He actually got a kick out of that because it was controlled.  The entire neighborhood kids got in a line and did a parade of sorts thru the neighborhood collecting candy.  There was order to it, clear rules not chaos - this is what Dimples likes.   This year, with Halloween being on a Friday, our neighborhood didn't do anything early.

2. I am not a creative one who can whip up a costume from our closets and go.  No, if my kids want to dress up that means buying 4 costumes and frankly, I'm not feeling that expenditure. #CheapSkate

3.  I don't give my kids a lot of candy.  I have 3 who have ADHD ,do you think they need more of a sugar rush?  Uhmm, no.  We end up tossing out the leftover Halloween candy around Easter and the leftover Easter candy around Halloween.  It's not worth it.

This year, we are going to stay in. I'm contemplating taking them to the movies because it's sure to be bare there tonight with all the other witches and goblins out raiding people for candy :)

Speaking of movies - I cannot wait for this one to come out!